Stop asking kids what they want to be and start asking them what kind of life they want to live.
I was chatting with my youngest son — who is physically a full-grown man at 15, but still just a boy trying to figure life out. He has big dreams of attending the University of Michigan and is working hard toward that goal, but recently he told me he doesn’t know what he wants to “do” when he grows up.
I could feel the pressure behind his words, like he’s supposed to have it all figured out within...